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A Dialogue on Love

by Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick
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Overview

When she begins therapy for depression after breast cancer treatment, the author brings with her an extraordinarily open and critical mind, but also shyness about revealing herself. Resisting easy responses to issues of dependence, desire, and mortality, she warily commits to a male therapist who shares little of her cultural and intellectual world.

Although not without pain, their improvised relationship is as unexpectedly pleasurable as her writing is unconventional: Sedgwick combines dialogue, verse, and even her therapist's notes to explore her interior life—and delivers and delicate and tender account of how we arrive at love.

Synopsis

When she begins therapy for depression after breast cancer treatment, the author brings with her an extraordinarily open and critical mind, but also shyness about revealing herself. Resisting easy responses to issues of dependence, desire, and mortality, she warily commits to a male therapist who shares little of her cultural and intellectual world.

Although not without pain, their improvised relationship is as unexpectedly pleasurable as her writing is unconventional: Sedgwick combines dialogue, verse, and even her therapist's notes to explore her interior life—and delivers and delicate and tender account of how we arrive at love.

Publishers Weekly

As a founder of the academic discipline of "queer studies," Sedgwick's bailiwick is postmodern discourse on sexuality, though she has previously avoided disclosing much about her personal life. Having embarked on therapy for depression while recovering from breast cancer, Sedgwick (Epistemology of the Closet, etc.) finally confronts the connection between her own sexual nature and her life's work, while also facing her feelings about death and family. In a narrative structured around her sessions with a heterosexual male therapist, she spends a good deal of time questioning whether he can appreciate her intellect or ever understand her worldview, particularly her deep infatuations with gay men and her complex sadomasochistic fantasies. The sessions lead her to several realizations: that she has an attraction to the dying and the dead; that she is in love with her mother, who, according to a running family joke, is a latent lesbian; that, although she has been married for 25 years, she does have authentic links to "queer" experience; and that she is worthy of acceptance by others--as well as by her therapist. Including excerpts from her therapist's notes on their sessions and snippets of her own poetry, in addition to lots of chatty commentary, Sedgwick's reflections can come across as tediously self-indulgent. Although it strives to reveal depths of intimacy, her memoir reads more like an intellectual exercise than a straightforward account of psychic pain--and often leaves the reader at arm's length with a disquieting feeling of voyeurism that is likely to limit this memoir's appeal to Sedgwick's loyal following. (July) Copyright 1999 Cahners Business Information.

About the Author, Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick

Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick, one of the founders of the field of queer studies, is author of many books, including Epistemology of the Closet, Between Men, and Tendencies. She is currently professor of English at CUNY Graduate Center and lives in New York City.

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Publishers Weekly - Publisher's Weekly

As a founder of the academic discipline of "queer studies," Sedgwick's bailiwick is postmodern discourse on sexuality, though she has previously avoided disclosing much about her personal life. Having embarked on therapy for depression while recovering from breast cancer, Sedgwick (Epistemology of the Closet, etc.) finally confronts the connection between her own sexual nature and her life's work, while also facing her feelings about death and family. In a narrative structured around her sessions with a heterosexual male therapist, she spends a good deal of time questioning whether he can appreciate her intellect or ever understand her worldview, particularly her deep infatuations with gay men and her complex sadomasochistic fantasies. The sessions lead her to several realizations: that she has an attraction to the dying and the dead; that she is in love with her mother, who, according to a running family joke, is a latent lesbian; that, although she has been married for 25 years, she does have authentic links to "queer" experience; and that she is worthy of acceptance by others--as well as by her therapist. Including excerpts from her therapist's notes on their sessions and snippets of her own poetry, in addition to lots of chatty commentary, Sedgwick's reflections can come across as tediously self-indulgent. Although it strives to reveal depths of intimacy, her memoir reads more like an intellectual exercise than a straightforward account of psychic pain--and often leaves the reader at arm's length with a disquieting feeling of voyeurism that is likely to limit this memoir's appeal to Sedgwick's loyal following. (July) Copyright 1999 Cahners Business Information.

Library Journal

Clinically depressed after learning that she had breast cancer, Sedgwick entered therapy vowing to change: "If I can fit the pieces of this self back together at all, I don't want them to be the way they were." Here Sedgwick, a noted literary critic and poet, a founder of queer studies, and a professor of English at CUNY, writes an intimate memoir of her personal journey to self-love and inner peace. Poignantly candid during sessions with her unconventional male therapist, she reveals her feelings, memories, and thoughts about universal themes such as death, family ties, abandonment, happiness, self-esteem, and sexuality. Using haibun, a mixture of prose and haiku, as a unique narrative device to invite readers into her inner world, Sedgwick blends conversations from therapy sessions, segments of her therapist's notes, and lines of her evocative verse to create an intricate and intriguing tale of both her life and her enjoyable relationship with her therapist. This work has broad appeal and is recommended for larger public and academic libraries.--Kimberly L. Clarke, Univ. of Minnesota Lib., Minneapolis Copyright 1999 Cahners Business Information.

Kirkus Reviews

Poetry, diary, dialogue, commentary: all of those and more combine in this complex and intimate recounting of the relationship between the author and her therapist. The form Sedgwick (English/CUNY Graduate Center) has chosen is similar to one called haibun, found in 17th-century Japanese literature, which intersperses prose with haiku. Here the haiku is derived from her prose reflections, which are also sprinkled with excerpts from her therapist's notes. Sedgwick brings to the therapy a "crew-cut, 250-pound, shy, middle-aged" writer who has had a recent mastectomy followed by chemotherapy, who is a respected scholar of English literature and a pioneer of queer studies (though she herself is heterosexual and has been married to the same man since she was 19 years old). Her goal is to "fit the pieces" of her self, shattered in the wake of the cancer and other events, back together•but not "the way they were." Her therapist acknowledges that he has always liked to take things apart and put them back together, plus he agrees to her other conditions, including that he be a feminist and not homophobic. On the face of it, the therapy followed an ordinary route, exploring childhood, relationships with parents and siblings, sexuality, concerns (or lack of them) about death, dreams, and fantasies (despite a sex life that was in reality relatively uneventful, her fantasies were of punishment and pain). However, Sedgwick's pieces do come back together in a different way: for example, she remains engaged with her work, but not driven; and her experience of her body changes. The wrap-up is startling but gives meaning to even the most banal episodes that have gone before. Somechallenging as well as tender moments, but the studied format hides as much as it reveals about the patient and her therapist•and creates a journal that is more than a narrative but less than a poem.

Book Details

Published
June 1, 2000
Publisher
Beacon
Pages
240
Format
Paperback
ISBN
9780807029237

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