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Help Him Make You Smile

Name: Help Him Make You Smile
Author: Rita Eagle
ISBN: 9780765704962

by Rita Eagle

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Overview

Intersubjectivity refers to the motivation and capacity to connect and share one's own inner world with that of another person. This book addresses the questions: how does this precious human communication develop in infancy, and what can or should be done when it does not develop? The author presents a unique chronicle describing the day-by- day emergence of intersubjectivity in her infant son, born with neurodevelopmental disabilities. These observations are analyzed in the context of a critical review of theory and research about intersubjectivity in normal children and in children with atypical development. From both sources emerges a model for how intersubjectivity develops in the parent-infant interaction, and guidelines for how to intervene when it does not. While acknowledging the inroads that have been made in understanding this unique human capacity, the author points to the questions that remain to be addressed in future research. The book ends with a rare opportunity to follow the trajectory of her son's capacity for intersubjectivity over a period of more than thirty years. It is addressed to theorists and researchers; clinicians who work with infants and children with developmental disorders and their families; and parents who want to understand their children's development.

Synopsis

This book focuses on the development of self and intersubjectivity in infants, and the parent-child and family interactions that help facilitate it. A unique, step by step account of how these capacities emerged and developed in a child with atypical neurodevelopment over his first four years is examined in the light of theory and research about these issues in normal children as well as in infants and children with various developmental disabilities.

About the Author, Rita Eagle

Rita Eagle, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologis with 45 years of experience. Currently she is doing clinical work and training with a focus on autism and mental retardation at the Harbor Regional Center in California. She has three adult children, including Benjamin, the inspiration of this book, now 36 years old, who has mental retardation and features of an autistic spectrum disorder. Dr. Eagle taught at City College and Brooklyn College in New York and supervised clinicians and doctoral candidates.

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PsycCRITIQUES

The book is fascinating... It is an interesting and readable tale of the growth of a severely, perhaps autistic, neurologically impaired child... The book has value for the professional and for parent–caretakers of these children in its suggestions for interventions and for providing a view of a possible, optimistic, although limited outcome. Eagle's message is a positive one that is appropriately captured in the title of the book: Help Him Make You Smile.

Peter Hobson

As a clinical psychologist who has worked with children with autism and has knowledge of the academic literature in relevant domains of psychology, as well as a parent drawing on experience of intimate involvement with Benjamin, Rita Eagle is well qualified to integrate detailed and personal descriptions of her son's development with reflections upon the sources of his difficulties, and more specifically of the handicaps to and progress in his development. From this perspective, she provides an accessible critical review of psychological theories of autism, as well as an informed evaluation of therapeutic interventions-with novel suggestions from her own experience.

The book is an impressive achievement. The author is balanced and generous in her citations of the works of others, and at the same time has an individual voice and an engaging skepticism concerning theoretical accounts (including her own) that seek to encompass qualities of atypical development manifest in the behavior and experience of her own child and in others with developmental disorders. Her account is thoughtful, insightful, original, challenging and fresh; even when considering views somewhat at odds with her own, she attempts to share what is positive and enlightening. In summary, this amounts to a special blend of personal and scientific perspectives that helps us to appreciate the interpersonal dimensions of typical as well as atypical development, cognitive as well as social.

Clara Claiborne Park

Dr. Eagle's account of her son Benjamin's development from birth to a happy, satisfied adulthood is one of the few books that combine the insights of a parent with the disciplined observations and conclusions of a qualified professional. Her story is not one of cure, miraculous or otherwise, but of another kind of triumph—of active love and persistence. It should help many families and enlighten many professionals.

Elspeth Bradley

Dr. Eagle has provided a masterful and unique contribution to our awareness and understanding of the emergence of self and intersubjectivity. The distillation of her observations and experiences as the mother of an atypical child, developmental psychologist and psychotherapist working with children and young adults with special needs over several decades, has resulted in a framework of understanding that provides greater clarity in a conceptually difficult area. Her insights have implications for early intervention in supporting atypically developing children as well as for the psychological support and prevention of emotional disturbances in adults with special needs. I will be recommending this book highly, as core reading, to my students and colleagues working with persons with developmental and learning disabilities across the life span.

Inge Bretherton

This is an amazing account, both for its perceptiveness and honesty and for the descriptions of Benjamin's development and his mother's disclosure of her own experiences, feelings and reflections.

Stuart Shanker

This is an extraordinary book, on so many levels. The story that it tells of a boy born with developmental disabilities is gripping, moving, at times amusing and at times painfully poignant. But most of all, the story of Benjamin's development is deeply inspiring. It is also the story of a parent who comes, not just to cherish her son, but to grow in so many ways as a result of having Benjamin in her life. Finally, it is the work of an exceptionally talented developmental psychologist who is constantly struggling with her field as she seeks to understand and help both her son and her science. One comes away with a deeper appreciation of the richness and the limitations of our current theories about the nature and importance of intersubjectivity. This is a book that is destined to become a classic, read and re-read by everyone who is interested in how a mind develops.

Colwyn Trevarthen

Rita Eagle has splendid qualifications to write about the subtle and varied growth of intersubjectivity. A student of psychology early interested in autism, guided in professional training as a clinical psychologist by Margaret Mahler and Fred Pine, she has been a clinical practitioner and researcher in care for children with autism, and a devoted mother of three. She shares the discovery of demanding but rich and rewarding companionship with a son who needed special sensitivity on her part, to enable them to "connect" emotionally, by helping him "to make her smile". This beautifully written book has much to teach all of us who try to make a scientific account of the growth of a child's mind, or who claim to have advice for the care of any child whose own person-ness and need for others is not easily explained or diagnosed. Its Benjaminisms reveal hidden gifts.

January 2009 Journal Of Autism and Developmental Disorders

Rarely does a book come fom a very exceptional clinician that has such an eloquent blend of personal observation and clinical and scholarly depth....Surely every patient or professional reading this book will find much in their own experience to add—and much to admire in Dr. Eagle's honest, moving volume.

May 2009 Jrl Of The Canadian Academy Of Child Adolescent Psychiatry

This book is about applying theory to the child you'd meet in your office: the child who is not a textbook case, not only of typicality but also of atypicality. Dr. Eagle has brought to this book a rare perspective. Her description of her struggles, despite being an experienced parent and expert in precisely this field, with parenting a child who 'makes you float away in your thoughts when you're with him, just float away and withdraw' can be helpful and supportive to parents who are trying to articulate what they recognize as a difference in their child, and to do the best for their child. This book will appeal mainly to child psychiatrists, child psychologists, and developmental pediatricians.