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Ten Stupid Things Couples do to Mess up Their Relationships

Name: Ten Stupid Things Couples do to Mess up Their Relationships
Author: Laura Schlessinger
ISBN: 9780060512606

by Laura Schlessinger, Dr Laura Schlessinger

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Overview

1. Stupid Secrets
Withholding important information for fear of rejection

2. Stupid Egotism
Asking not what you can do for the relationship but only what the relationship can do for you

3. Stupid Pettiness
Making a big deal out of the small stuff

4. Stupid Power
Always trying to be in control

5. Stupid Priorities
Consuming all your time and energies with work, hobbies, errands, and chores instead of focusing on your relationship

6. Stupid Happiness
Seeking stimulation and assurance from all the wrong places to satisfy the immature need to feel good

7. Stupid Excuses
Not being accountable for bad behavior

8. Stupid Liaisons
Not letting go of negative attachments to friends and relatives who are damaging to your relationship

9. Stupid Mismatch
Not knowing when to leave and cut your losses

10. Stupid Breakups
Disconnection for all the wrong reasons

Synopsis

1. Stupid Secrets
Withholding important information for fear of rejection

2. Stupid Egotism
Asking not what you can do for the relationship but only what the relationship can do for you

3. Stupid Pettiness
Making a big deal out of the small stuff

4. Stupid Power
Always trying to be in control

5. Stupid Priorities
Consuming all your time and energies with work, hobbies, errands, and chores instead of focusing on your relationship

6. Stupid Happiness
Seeking stimulation and assurance from all the wrong places to satisfy the immature need to feel good

7. Stupid Excuses
Not being accountable for bad behavior

8. Stupid Liaisons
Not letting go of negative attachments to friends and relatives who are damaging to your relationship

9. Stupid Mismatch
Not knowing when to leave and cut your losses

10. Stupid Breakups
Disconnection for all the wrong reasons

About the Author, Laura Schlessinger

Dr. Laura Schlessinger is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the author of ten New York Times bestsellers, and a regular columnist for NewsMax. She is the number one female talk-show host and the third-most-listened-to talk-show host in America. Her award-winning radio program is heard on more than 250 stations internationally, XM Satellite Radio, and the Armed Forces Network, and is streamed and podcast on her website and YouTube channel. She lives in Southern California with her husband.

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Stupid secrets; stupid egotism; stupid pettiness; stupid power; stupid priorities…. For a quarter of a century, radio advice guru Dr. Laura Schlessinger has been confronted with the same lamebrained behavior by couples who should know better. In this no-nonsense book, she doesn't just point fingers; she helps you become smart.

Publishers Weekly

Schlessinger once again pontificates on the values, behaviors and flaws that ruin lives and society. Dr. Laura is well-known for her caustic advice on her syndicated radio show and in previous Stupid Things books. Never a believer in the proverbial spoonful of sugar, she pummels readers with judgments and instructions for dating and marriage. With many quotations from listeners, Schlessinger gives a tongue-lashing to "stupid" secrets, egotism, pettiness, power, excuses, etc. She offers rational (if familiar) counsel to honor commitments, treat partners and relationships respectfully, communicate, accept differences and make some compromises, but she exhibits not a trace of empathy or humility. She never substantiates broad generalizations that "feminist propaganda" and "ultraliberal... norms" have yielded an "amoral" and "ego-loving society," neglecting to cite sources for vague "studies." She writes, "I get very angry when spouses call feeling guilty for wanting to get out of bad relationships," forgetting that, as a counselor, her feelings don't much matter. Frozen in some pre-Feminine Mystique time, she advocates chivalry, alleging, "it's getting more and more difficult for a man to find a woman he can respect." Although not a medical doctor or addiction counselor, Schlessinger rejects the concept of addiction as disease, blaming it on poor "character." People seeking a self-help alternative to touchy-feely or moral-relativist philosophies should avoid this harsh, self-indulgent tirade. (Oct.) Forecast: Schlessinger's high profile will spur interest. But outrage at her recent antigay campaign caused many advertisers to boycott her television show and will affect sales. Copyright 2001Cahners Business Information.

Library Journal

This follow-up to Schlessinger's best sellers 10 Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives and 10 Stupid Things Men Do To Mess Up Their Lives is meant to help heterosexual couples iron out the wrinkles in their relationships. Dr. Laura is again telling it as she sees it, pointing out ten behaviors that prevent intimacy and commitment (e.g., Stupid Secrets, Stupid Egotism, Stupid Pettiness, etc.). Devotees, beware: she quotes liberally from letters that she has received and calls that she has taken on her radio show. Throughout, she calls for more God-centered relationships, spelling it G-d so as not to be sacrilegious. Feminists and the "predominantly liberal press" two groups she blames for current societal woes will not embrace her ideas. Despite Schlessinger's conservative politics, her book deserves a chance because she has something for couples and singles alike to think and argue about. She is frank, compelling, and easy to read. This work will be popular with her fans, sell well in bookstores, and be in demand in public libraries. [Previewed in Prepub Alert, LJ 7/01.] Susan E. Burdick, Plymouth Meeting, PA Copyright 2001 Cahners Business Information.