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The Siren's Dance : My Marriage to a Borderline: A Case Study

by Anthony Walker
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Overview

"I know that you love me because you still make love to me even after we have a fight." She was right. Her sorrow and embarrassment at her outbursts were real, and her attempts to control her anger so earnest that I knew she was trying for me, for herself, and for us. I had to remind myself that I had known that she was intense to the extreme in her experience of life, and that her struggle was my struggle. We would share anger, but we would also share love.

No one could ever love Michelle enough. Not her family, not her friends, and certainly not the men (and women) she so easily attracted, like moths to a flame. But when a final-year med student falls for her while she's recovering from a suicide attempt over her latest breakup, they both may be in for more than they bargained for. Hoping to help cure her of her debilitating fears and explosive rage, Anthony marries Michelle in a secret ceremony that alienates him from his family, and ultimately from himself. Initially mesmerized by her seductive smile, her surprising sensuality, and the why behind her wildly unpredictable behavior, the author comes to realize that he will have to sacrifice his career—and more—in order to be with her.

This achingly honest and true account of Anthony and Michelle's whirlwind year-and-a-half together provides a window into the emotionally intense world of someone suffering from borderline personality disorder, a condition seen in an estimated 2 percent of the general population and 10 percent of mental health outpatients. It also offers the perspective of those most affected—the sufferer's loved ones, whom despite all the upheaval are still compelled to care. So concludes the author: "I hope that my story will be seen more as a case study in such a relationship than as a cautionary tale."

About the Author, Anthony Walker

The author is a staff psychiatrist at a prestigious American hospital and an instructor in psychiatry at a renowned American medical school. "Anthony Walker" is a pseudonym, used to protect the privacy of those involved.

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Editorials

Los Angeles Times Book Review

Deftly coordinated, gracefully composed, charitably argued and suspensefully paid out, . . . as narrative history it is surpassing.

New York Times Book Review

The best one-volume treatment of its subject I have ever come across . . . This is historical writing of the highest order.

The Philadelphia Inquirer

Immediately takes its place as the best one-volume history of the coming of the American Civil War . . .

Washington Post Book World

The Finest single volume on the war and its background.

Publishers Weekly

Walker's disturbing memoir follows the relationship between the author (a psychiatrist) and his wife, Michelle, from its tumultuous beginning in 1985 to their ambivalent last good-bye three years later. The subtitle "a case study" attempts to maintain a professional distance from this devastating relationship, but it's all too clear that the illness from which Walker's wife suffered came close to dragging him down with her. Walker is first smitten by Michelle when, as a medical student, he encounters her on rounds, where she is presented as a recent suicide attempt. He can't understand how such a beautiful, sexy young woman would want to kill herself and returns to interview her for a school presentation. Despite warnings from his teacher, friends and father, he falls deeply in love and is drawn into her world, only to emerge with great difficulty a year later. Walker, an outgoing, athletic, cheerful young man, relinquishes more and more of himself to Michelle and gradually becomes isolated, depressed, devious and even violent as he tries to cope with-and ultimately escape from-Michelle. Walker, who now treats teenage girls with borderline personality disorder, is not an expert writer. His dialogues often sound as if the speakers learned English as a second language. But this intimate narrative, showing how the best intentions of a na ve, compassionate young doctor can lead him straight to hell, will fascinate readers who've dealt with similar situations firsthand. The three appendixes provide welcome information about the definition, diagnosis and treatment of borderline personality disorder. (Sept.) Forecast: Walker's book will attract therapists, families coping with mental illness and anyone interested in the sometimes destructive symbiosis between the mentally ill and those who care for them. Readers seeking a Girl, Interrupted-type story won't find it here, though, as Walker is, first and foremost, a psychiatrist, not a writer. Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information.

Book Details

Published
September 20, 2003
Publisher
Rodale Press, Inc.
Pages
192
Format
Hardcover
ISBN
9781579548315

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