Twelve Steps for the Divorced Dad

Twelve Steps for the Divorced Dad has been tested through three years of publication on the internet. Here are some of the comments it has received:

I work for a Head Start program in Oregon and have been doing a Men's Discussion Group for 3 years. I applaud the information that you are disseminating to Dads and know from personal experience the pain associated with being a non-custodial parent.

...Thanks again for your web site. The information will be put to good use here in Oregon.

(Tom L.)

Your pages gave me the relief that I needed for the very brief 'flashes' of anger that I had for my 'going-to-be-ex-wife'

Thanks for that.... goes to Jesus.... and yourself

(Warren J.)

Many, Many thanks are extended out to you on your site... I have been dating the most wonderful man, who just happens to be a divorced dad.

(Cindy)

I just finished reading your contribution to divorcing fathers on the Net. It is a useful framework for handling the emotional, frustrating odyssey of divorce and its gut wrenching processes.

(Rafael)

Thank you for putting your steps on the internet. I have printed them out for my husband who is going through a very difficult process of possibly "losing" his children (my stepchildren) again as their mother decides to move out of state. I think these pages will help. Thank you for your bravery courage and honesty. Keep the faith.

(Sybil)

... I would like to thank you whom designed this site for your insight and willingness to delve into such a needed area.

... I see now what I was missing from my father and that was just to be with him and not have any hidden stuff to mentally deceive myself with!

...Please feel free to share this letter of gratitude with anyone thank you!

(Alex)

I would like to thank you for putting up a site for divorced fathers... It is very enlightening.

(Henry F)

Thanks for the insight into what I'm going thru in my life right now. I'm sure glad I found your page. It really helped put my thoughts in a different light. Bury the hatchet and get on with my life with my daughter.

Thanks again

(B. M.)

Thank you SOOOOO much for your information. I was looking on behalf of my fiancÈ who is at work now. He is recently divorced and his EX is not a very nice person and is using their children as pawns in her nasty game of life. I copied all of your steps and information for him to read when he gets home. I hope it will help him(and me) in dealing with this woman..

THANK YOU

(Darren)

You've got the right descriptions for what I am going through. It's funny that all the people around me are telling me what to do , to let go , to go on with my life as normal. It is far from normal at this point.

(Signed Just Waiting)

I don't know who you are but I do know that you are a very special person, moved by God to create this program for hurting fathers.

... Thanks to your wonderfully written program I now understand what I must do in order to regain my relationship with my baby. All of my efforts and energy will now be directed toward achieving that goal... being reunited with her, not trying to defend that which needs no defense and to counter-attack the other side.

Thank you and may God richly bless you for this wonderful work.

God bless,

(Jim)

I am about to getting divorced and when I found this page I found a great relief. You can not imagine how thankful for this I fell. I made a copy and I've been reading it each time I feel down. Thanks God I'm feeling much better... feeling I'm not the only one to be feeling this pain.

Thank you,

(John B.)

First let me thank you for the opportunity that you provide parents with such a valuable resource of different issues in fatherhood...

...Lastly. let me also congratulate you because you are driving the vehicle that will carry and unify in it a very important force that has been in disarray and without direction: "The love of Fathers for their children".

(A. Y.)

I am a female that knows almost-first hand the pain of what a man who cares about his children goes through when a court comes in and decides that it would have no ill effect on children to let them have contact with their fathers 8 days out of the month. I am in love with a man who is torn apart inside because heÆs not considered an important part of his childrenÆs lives. I just want to let you know that we appreciate having a support structure out there.

(Christina)

Keep up the good work. As a father that just finalized a joint parenting (legal & physical custody) agreement after a 18 month battle the word needs to spread that the courts attitude is changing. This will encourage fathers to stand up for their rights and that of their children. I know that there were times I wanted to cave in but with the help of the various groups I was able to keep my drive alive.

Thank You and spread the news.

(Robert)