Overview
Back from Betrayal is a beautifully written and brutally honest account of marital infidelity and the long journey back to reconciliation.Suzy Farbman was living the American dream: great kids, a marriage that had lasted nearly three decades, a successful career, and a comfortable lifestyle. But when she discovered her husband was having an affair, her dream turned to nightmare, her secure world crumbled.
She was not alone. Experts tell us that in this country at least one of every three couples is touched by infidelity. And middle-aged couples today admit to twice the rate of infidelity as the preceding generation. While revelations about infidelity usually result in either divorce or an empty relationship, Suzy was determined to fight back. First for her own life. Then, if possible, for her marriage and family.
Suzy Farbman?s personal odyssey is one of the first published by a woman who confronted infidelity and went on to save her marriage. It was a long and difficult struggle, but in the process she learned much about what it takes to rebuild a relationship.
Here, too, are the revelations and insights of her husband, Burton. In his own words, he presents the startling account of how a successful businessman took full measure of himself and then made profound changes to dismantle the layers of his deceptive life.
Back from Betrayal will inspire couples who want to repair a broken marriage, and will also guide those in a healthy partnership to a deeper level of commitment and self-awareness. This courageous story adds a new perspective to our understanding of infidelity and, more important, reveals a process that can lead to healing and renewal. Ultimately, it is a love story for grown-ups.
Editorials
Mark Wolf
As Suzy Farbman writes it, the day that changed her life seemed so promising.She and her husband, Burton, were on their way to checking out the home they were building in an idyllic town north of Detroit when his cell phone rang. It was the Other Woman.The Cadillac STS interior was quiet enough that her voice escaped the phone like a shard aimed at Suzy's heart. Her husband told her it was a business acquaintance, then said it was a woman who was having an affair with a friend of his."For the first time in almost 30 years of marriage, I knew my husband was lying," Suzy would later write.That was her heart talking. Her brain was still wearing earplugs. "I was working overtime to believe him. I had been so out of touch with my feelings," she said.During a couples-therapy weekend two years later, her husband confessed to a trio of infidelities over the course of their marriage. The revelations sparked a years-long process of counseling and introspection that resulted in Back From Betrayal: Saving a Marriage, a Family, a Life (Crofton Creek Press, $24.95), Suzy Farbman's book about how her marriage was strained, then saved...— Rocky Mountain News (Denver, CO)
Penny Wolfson
Suzy, for all her platitudes, does know how to write and pace a story, and Back From Betrayal is an easy, somewhat breathless read.— The Washington Post